Friday, December 19, 2025

Thoughts

 I'm really debating whether to write this post. It's been written in my head for a few days now, and I'm still trying to quiet it down. My not-so-simple life here takes place on several levels, I could be the nice grandma who describes everyday life like anywhere else in the world, because there is life like that here too, but there's the extra spice that you know, the danger of life, the fear and the great sadness about what's happening to people like us in the world.

I also don't want to write from a victim's position, we're not like that.                                                                       We are people that the world loves to hate, for some reason, and throughout history they have tried to make us disappear, and here we are, miraculously surviving.                                                                                      But that's not what's been bothering me for a long time, and it's become much stronger in recent days when I read some comments here in Blogland about the terrible massacre that happened in Australia.            I saw it right after the October 7th, during the terrible massacre here, people can't stay for a moment with the terrible things that happened, they immediately seek balance, as if they share in the grief but immediately say "yes but", "yes but Gaza", "yes but Netanyahu", there is not a single moment of true and honest identification with the terrible thing that happened to innocent people, always part of the blame is immediately placed on the victim as well.                                                                                                              And here, in my opinion, is the root of the hypocrisy. Deep within these people sits a small anti-Semite who has not developed enough, fortunately, but that repressed inner being does not give that person the ability to truly identify with the pain of the innocent victim.                                                                                              And it doesn't matter if you had a Jewish grandfather, if you lived in a Jewish neighborhood and they were nice to you, or if you were an educator in the past, if you still can't relate to a hate crime against Jews without trying to create a seemingly balanced equation, it says something about you, and to me it says something bad.                                                  These are my thoughts. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe I'm right, maybe not every inability to identify with human pain is anti-Semitism, maybe it's just some kind of mental disability, I don't know anything.                                                                                                                                                                                             


                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    

17 comments:

  1. The situation makes me think, but I have no answers.

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    1. Anvicloud, Thank you very much, I know it's very difficult to comment on a post like this, that's the intention, to provoke thought, there is no single answer.

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  2. I don't think there is a simple, or even rational answer. How many of us are able to determine what really lies beneath our initial gut reactions to such things.
    I don't know, Yael.

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    1. Jaycee, I know there is no one right answer and I don't want anyone to feel guilty, people act and express opinions from a deep or superficial place, that's what they do, I just wanted to bring to the surface what has been bothering me for a long time. You have always been and remain a pure person.

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  3. All I felt was horror at the event, and a sense that at least someone stood up to help. So often nobody does.

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    1. It is indeed encouraging that even in difficult moments there will always be someone good.

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  4. Please forgive your American friends if we don't seem to show as much empathy as this tragedy deserves. We're so steeped in gun violence and daily killings that it's easy to become numb to it all.

    I don't understand anti semitism and never have. Human beings never seem to learn to be better to each other no matter how much we progress in other ways. I never knew any Jewish people growing up, but now as an adult we have a Jewish lady in our book club and we've become good friends. I'm trying to learn more about your religion from her...it's fascinating. We should celebrate our differences and make friends with all kinds of people. It makes us better humans, I think.

    Anyway, sending you love. Thank you for blogging about your life and your perspective.

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    1. Jennifer, thank you. I really don't want anyone to feel guilty, and it's not the Americans I was so hurt by. At the beginning of the war here, I tried to talk to one of the American women here from whom I felt the most extreme reactions. She rudely rejected me, but I know she doesn't represent anyone, only herself. In the post here, I addressed comments I saw from other places. And thank you for understanding.

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  5. Bless you, Yael. I don't understand why one set of humans wants to obliterate another set. I have no answers. I think we have to be able to look ourselves in the eye, in the mirror. We are responsible for ourselves. That is the only power we have. I choose not to hate.
    Take care. Xx

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  6. Unless we experience the trauma we can never really empathise. We can sympathise, and words are easy. Be sure there are many who do not seek to balance evil with 'what aboutery.'

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    1. Unfortunately, most of the comments I've seen in a long time were ones that tried to create a kind of balance between the parties. At first I tried to argue and explain, I saw that it wasn't helping and I gave up, but it didn't reduce the pain.

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  7. Hmmmm...food for thought in this post! In the immediate aftermath of Oct. 7 I could not understand people who blamed that event on Israel. It was so clear to me that everyday Israelis were the victims, and in such a horrible fashion. Netanyahu's scorched-earth war of retribution gradually turned public opinion more toward sympathy for the Gazans, but that doesn't change the fact that Israelis were victims on that day.

    I think people instinctively seek balance in an effort to understand "all sides" of an issue. It's meant well, but it can also be misguided. I do think whatever we do to ease the conflicts between Israel and the Palestinians must consider the long-term health and welfare of both groups. (Two-state solution?)

    Being gay, I identified with your line, "We are people that the world loves to hate." I could say the same.

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    1. I can only add to what Dana International said, "In Gaza they would hang you." Also food for thought. Thank you Steve for your understanding.

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  8. Thank you for sharing this; I am glad you did. I'm taking it to heart.

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  9. Thank you. I know you understand.

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  10. I so love to hear your perspective. I do disagree that all people love to hate Jews. I know many Christians besides myself that know no one w/that heart. It is an uncomprehensible notion, as Jesus was a Jew. Wishing you love & peace Sweet Yael!

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